Projection: How to Spot a Narcissist/Energy Vampire
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Spotting a Narcissist Energy Vampire: Projection
People who project their stuff onto other people make others feel crazy. Blaming and shaming in particular is what I'm referring to.
Recently I went through this. Feeling utterly triggered because someone who used to follow me started an argument by dissing my opinion. But as she was doing this, calling me hateful, she didn't see how attacking me for having an opinion that opposed hers is hateful as well. What about “live and let live?” For blamers and shamers on the triangle, this rule doesn't exist. It always goes their way, they don't see the inequity of what they're doing because they see themselves as faultless. It's everyone else around them that's wrong, not them. I defend myself against these people all the time although sometimes one or two gets through my defenses. I thank my mother for teaching me this because she thought she was perfect. My mother was also a narcissist.
Saying controversial things will always bring out control freaks. If what I say is too much for you, don't follow me. It's that simple.
As an empath and Indigo, I'm now responsible for transmuting not only my own emotions but also her stuff around this. Don't blame me if I don't feel like jumping right to it, folks, I'm only human and I'm subject to withdrawing my goodwill as well. Yes, I know. I'm a channeler. Some of you think I'm supposed to be perfect. That's why Jesus taught the lesson of forgiveness. It gets you on the right path again when you're willing to walk it. Sometimes we fall off. We can't do what's asked of us. Sound familiar? Yes, it's called 'being human.'
Being unconditionally loving does not mean you have no boundaries. It's the secure boundaries you've created that allow the embodiment of your higher self in 3D/4D. If a stranger had a knife in their pocket you wouldn't run up and wrap your arms around them for a hug, would you? On ET planets they are unconditionally loving because everyone else is as well. That's not the case here. Those who can practice the unconditional love of Christ Consciousness are doing it now to anchor that energy into the collective unconscious because humanity on earth hasn't had this to try to attain for a long time. Jesus came here to remind them. They will attract to them a lot of opposition in the form of narcissism.
My comment on this issue: “From the person who wrote comments on how it's a shame I say those words about Potus T: "I can't believe you treat another with such hate." It's always a one-way street, folks. Their way. I can always tell when people aren't in the habit of assessing their own behaviour - because they project all their faults onto me!! They blame and shame. She started this whole thing by admonishing me for the way I see Trump, then expects to just waltz into my life and form some kind of "support" or emotional partnership. Then she contacts Ivo, who didn't respond to her. You guys need to start looking at your own shadow. It's that simple. Keep doing the work, although the narcissist will never start, I'm afraid. Trying to start a supportive friendship with someone is not started with shaming and admonishing them for their opinions, folks. And it's not just your idea that you're trying to foist onto me: It has to be mutually conceived and agreed to, another thing she didn't think about. She's offering support I didn't ask for. Obviously there are some of you that know this. I've had a whole life of this, a hard very emotional life of trying to re-awaken myself and it was rife with personal conflicts, so I'm not doing it now. I will have to stop reading the comments in Rumble soon because as more people find the channel the worse it's going to get for me. Yes, me. I'm the one who has had to shoulder all your blaming and shaming!! If I sound like I'm hateful, that's why.”
It's impossible not to judge another person, folks. Impossible. Why? Because you have to be aware of others' behaviour. You have to see it coming otherwise you'll be fated to falling into personality traps many people will set out for you, whether deliberate or not. You have to judge. Or at least be discerning. Awareness is key and judgment is part of that awareness.
People who attack other people for their opinions are violating the Constitution. They are saying that others are not entitled to free speech. Perhaps if we want the government to honour the Constitution we should start with doing it ourselves! So many starseeds are starting from what they learned living in the Matrix and we're all trying to improve this earth with the arsenal of misinformation we have learned from the deep state without rethinking it. We have much purification to do.
My next comment: “The nerve of some people! First she starts by admonishing me for my opinion of Trump and I expected somebody would. Then she starts waffling on her opinion of Trump because I said what I did. She says, "The jury is still out for me on Trump, I’m in the middle, it matters not to me whether he be found a good guy or a bad guy." Funny, her first comment didn't sound like that at all. Then she starts telling me what to do: "I am so pleased to have spoken with you as i have called in Ivo to connect me to you as our plans are very similar on the community I am starting also. I am not sure now how you feel but one thing i do know... we are not to judge anyone as they each have their own path in this plan and we should not assume anything. I have listened to you for several years and hope that you will call in the Alliance to show you what is truly happening thru Potus T." The information I get on Trump is channeled through Ivo and Ashtar. It's in our books, particularly 'Your Future on Eden.' "I am pleased to have finally been able to make contact and that Ivo and St. Germain will explain my inquiry into talking with you in much greater detail." I DON'T EVEN KNOW THIS PERSON!!!! Why would I have any curiosity about why they have contacted me??? And now they're telling me to think that they're some kind of advisor or something. These people make others feel crazy because their boundaries are so sloppy and they don't utilize normal procedures for personal disclosure. This is the stuff we teach, folks so I can see it coming very quickly. She needs to start looking at herself because she puts people on the defensive. Anyone who makes instant friends with others has poor boundaries. I've had to learn that lesson the hard way - and it has stuck!” Often my instant friendships had something to do with co-victimization or copious amounts of alcohol but right now social media seems to be the new elixir.
Do you think that Ivo came out right away and said, “I'm an ET from Vega and we're in love.” I would've ignored him if he had. He went through the proper channels of disclosure. He let me take all the time I needed to fall in love with him, and then to remember that I already was anyway and he was who I had been searching for on this planet! Even telepathically there are no shortcuts. You don't tell people who they are – let them find out for themselves, and you don't tell people what to do – they will do as they please because they have free will. Her attempts to violate these God given laws did not go unnoticed.
If you want to get someone to change, you can only suggest it and then you have to be in the position of a confidante when you do it. Most people will dismiss comments from people they don't know and trust as being irrelevant – it's their trusted confidantes in life they will go to for advice. Apparently social media doesn't teach that either, does it?
I have found that trying to carry on a friendship with someone with sloppy boundaries is very difficult. Unless there is some respect and a willingness to be flexible and no inclination to manipulate and control, I've found these things very hard to do. Because of my own personal past, and these are things you can recognize about yourself as well, I also do not appreciate arrogant people. If they're so powerful, let them strike out on their own and stop trying to make underlings of people like me. You can see the power plays just by the few things she said. Not gonna happen. I'm not out to abuse anyone but I will assert myself.
Ivo is not going to set up a friendship between you and I. He also doesn't speak to anyone on earth but me. Obviously we put that in place because of situations like this.
Because we're on social media does not change the rules of interpersonal disclosure for me one iota. Social media has blurred the boundaries of proper personal disclosure. When you meet someone who you are interested in for anything such as friendship or a love relationship, you start by spending time face to face and then disclosing more and more personal information about yourself. This takes time. On social media there are boundary-less people who don't use this process. These people make me defensive because one minute I don't know them and the next they're in my face wanting daily contact. One of the people who I allowed to do this with me ended up using me as a sounding board for her abuse issues and then when I ended the friendship she bled me dry of energy for two days until Ivo intervened to shield me from her vampirism. Really. I've had enough of my own abuse issues to deal with folks, do you really think I want to hear yours as well? I talk about mine in order for you to see what I've learned but it's up to you to teach yourself using what we, and others, provide to you for your own healing.
Just because I have an ET that you can contact doesn't mean he's going to respond to you, and he didn't. If you want something from me, you ask me, not Ivo. One time when I was 16 a man at the bowling alley my family used to bowl at was attracted to me. He decided to act on this by approaching my father and speaking to him. That incensed me! I spouted off about it in the car as we drove home, which had my family in stitches. My final comment to my father was if he liked this guy so much, then he should go out with him because I wasn't going to. This is how you approach me: one to one. Don't go “over my head” to Ivo, or contact any other entity to contact me. Anyone who is assertive and self governing would expect that.
What I have noticed for a lot of people is that as society has degraded, boundaries have been weakened. Codependency and other manifestations of poor boundaried mindsets are rampant right now. Social media has not helped – it's only promoted it and the divisiveness that goes along with it. Those of us with healthy boundaries have a hard time dealing with the public because our free will is always being violated. Plus there's the issue of projection where we get scapegoated for all you don't like about yourself, which is the case here. This woman's waffling between changing her opinion to neutral when I wouldn't budge on mine and then using lofty, high handed speech (“It matters not” instead of “it doesn't matter” and “I too have been down in the tunnels” instead of “I've also been down in the tunnels”) indicates she's in her ego, alternating between the superior and inferior ego positions. Anyone who changes their opinion when you challenge them is lying. They will only hold that opinion when they feel validated by others or they feel that that opinion may garner a reward like your approval. Often attempts of dominance will turn to messages of appeasement afterwards. Codependents need people they value to validate them. Narcissists are codependents. I remember a woman I used to work with, who, whenever someone told a joke would wait to see if others were laughing first before she did. She obviously didn't understand the joke but wanted to look like she did. Nothing like admitting, “I don't get it,” and asking for an explanation but some people can't make themselves vulnerable.
I'm not here to dominate anyone through my approval or disapproval of them. Next week this incident will be forgotten. I've only been seeking my equal my entire life and always falling short. Until Ivo spoke to me. I'm in the unfortunate position of having compared everyone I met to Ivo. Life here has been very disappointing. It was necessary so that I could wake up, because it was the reality of him I was to wake up to.
She states that we're not to judge anyone then tells me how mean she thinks I am. Uh huh. That's do as I say, not as I do, isn't it? This person is completely and totally blind. And I don't like having to relate to or to defend myself against their attacks. But I will make a video about them. Always something more to pass on to you to help you too.
If you want to get my back up, start telling me what to do, that's after you diss my opinion. Both are a violation of my free will. I'm not here to make a fight of trying to get our messages out. You can just see them and take what you like and leave the rest. If it brings up a reaction in you, look at that reaction. What don't you like about it? But don't attack me for having said it because if nothing else, it's unconstitutional to do so. Why were you following me in the first place? Because you liked our messages. I get contradictory messages from people who like our messages but start arguing with me.
I'm not saying you have to believe everything; I'm saying take what you like and leave the rest. We don't have to agree one hundred percent of the time, and we won't. Stay out of the black and white and start looking in the shades of grey.
Ultimately this only makes me stronger in the end, but I share this with you so you can learn to see poor inter-communication and grand mal ego in action.
If she has all this contact, where's her website? I hope she's on Facebook and other social media sharing channelings. Also why won't she tell me her name? That's always a red flag for me. Use your real name. What are you hiding? How do I know I'm hiding something by calling myself Sharon, because I am. It's my relationship to my family that I'm protecting besides I'm just tired of my real name. I associate it with what I went through and the false persona I adopted to live on earth. So I changed it. It adds up to 144 but I still changed it.
Look at these things when you meet new people, including on social media:
- do they use high handed, lofty speech (as opposed to people who may be well educated and use language of a higher grade then the general public, like a lawyer)
- do they tell you what to do?
- do they triangulate – do they go to your friends or relatives to talk about their intentions for you before they approach you?
- do they tell you not to judge others but spend their time judging you?
- do they attack you for your opinion (which is unconstitutional)?
- do they make you wrong? Are they about finding fault or are they about finding commonalities?
- in making you wrong, do they tell you you are totally wrong about them and you just don't understand them. Do you get the feeling they're switching positions – that they won't allow you to actually understand them because they won't commit to one position or opinion?
- do you feel they're trying to build themselves up at your expense?
- do they bring in people you respect to strengthen their agenda with you?
- do they change their opinion because you won't back down from yours?
- do they shame you?
- do they try to make you feel guilty?
- do they tell you how awful they think you are (hateful was the term she used) but expect you to be holier than God? Butter wouldn't melt in your mouth, kind of thing? Why do they expect that of you and why are they trying to start a fight with you? (Look at loosh and how it's produced in interactions with other people)
- Why do they expect you to be so virtuous? Why do they hold you on a pedestal you couldn't possibly live up to? So they can tell you how you've failed them, that's why. They're setting you up to be their perpetrator and re-victimizing themselves because they do this with a lot of people. It's a life pattern of being a victim. Sometimes these people have a same sex parent who they are re-enacting this drama with through you.
- do they tell you what to do implying that their opinion has the backing of a Saint or other divine being?
- do they tell you what they think of you the first time they comment? Do they believe that makes a difference to you?
- is their message inconsistent? Do they change it? Do they just outright lie? People who change their message when you won't back down are seeking to dominate you. Don't let them. Learn to love yourself in spite of your faults. That way you can't be shamed or made to feel guilty. They'll just try to find another way to dominate you because that's their game. Like the DS, they fear you so much they have to control you.
- if you believe you can handle a person like this in your life, eventually you may learn that you're too sensitive to be able to do it and you avoid them. Or you can just put up with it. Your choice.
- do you get the sense that this person isn't being very realistic?
- do you feel triggered and then ask yourself: “If I'm triggered is this a valid trigger or just some toxic stuff from my past that I need to release?” Sometimes your triggers ARE a valid way of protecting yourself and you need to honour them.
- do they appear to be violating your boundaries in any way? What are your boundaries around newcomers in your life and are they realistic? Do they reflect your needs and not the needs of the general population? (because, remember that the general population is still in the matrix)
- is this person attempting to stay in the superior position in your exchange, by perhaps offering you help you didn't ask for – the assumption here is that you are in need of help. Do they get uncomfortable with taking a more equal position in the exchange? When you stand your ground do they start to waffle? Do the attacks get worse?
- Can you anticipate how they'll react to what you're saying? If you can, you've been down that road before. Time to turn off.
- Do they continue to attack and to blame you instead of just stopping the exchange or perhaps admitting they stepped out of line? Then they're not really interested in knowing you. They're more interested in gaining their narcissistic supply at your expense.
- Do they tell you you got it all wrong and you don't understand them? This is because you got it right when you called them on their stuff.
- Remember: Narcissists love empaths.
- Don't assume everyone has good intentions. That's the wrong assumption to make.
- the narcissist is an energy vampire
- they try to keep the fight going to get their energetic supply.
- many people serve their unseen attachments without realizing this. This is why you have to take back control of your mind and have it serve you, not demonics. I've heard one person can have hundreds of them! Hundreds! That's staggering.
- the true mark of a person is how they react when they're angry or stressed. That's a good indicator of how much progress you've made in your life.
- Do you start to doubt yourself and start to call yourself crazy around them? This is what effect narcissists have on people who have been very abused by them. What you need to do is stay grounded and validate your self as being correct, because you are.
- Be careful of people who offer without your asking to do certain things like support you. Did you ask for support or is this their idea? Why do they think you need emotional/spiritual support? These are often covert offers of control.
- Remember many people have been MK Ultra'd and don't realize it. Also COBRA reports that the dark ones have all but collapsed the starseed grid so many lightworkers are turning to the dark side. Only with constant scrutiny of your beliefs and intentions can you retain control of your own mind because they are on the attack. They will attack you themselves or use other people to drain your energy. The goal is to keep your vibration low. You have to be aware of all of their tactics - just read our website I have listed many of them - and keep your energetic, spiritual, mental and emotional maintenance up.
- How do you know when you're triggered? When you can't think of anything else but this situation. You're in its energy. Cut cords and I've asked Ivo for a bubble of white light protection so she can't send any more energy over to me. I don't want it, and by the way folks, if you're going to send white light energy make sure the person appreciates it.
- After such an incident, sit down and write how you could have approached or dealt with the situation differently. I should have ignored her comment I realize now. That would have been the best approach.
- do they tell you they speak to entities but when you ask the entity for confirmation, they deny it. Well, who are they talking to then?
- When you challenge them about what entity they spoke to, they tell the truth. She led me to believe that she had spoken to Ivo, but I knew he would ignore her. So she recanted.
- do they tell you you're nasty if they don't get their way with you or are they willing to compromise and meet you halfway? Telling you you're nasty is the victim coming out in them. Sometimes people position others to attack them. My father used to do it so he could play the coveted victim position for a change. He was always the bad guy in the family and for once wanted to look like he'd been hard done by. Frankly this whole victim triangle isn't worth a bit and it needs to be left behind. I live next door to people who do this to each other: the kids piss off the parents for attention and being able to be in control, and the father does it to the mother who at times threatens to kick him out. If this is what you need to do to get people to pay attention to you, you're in a sorry state. You're vampiring others' energy. Strive for more in life. By the way enacting this scenario keeps your energy low because you're not well connected to the higher energy source of your soul. You're being prompted by attachments who siphon off your energy and prompt you to keep fighting for more.
- And last point: If you don't know yourself and your reactions and how you feel on certain subjects, you're going to get sucked into the vampire's game. Don't do it. Learn to accept yourself with faults because nobody on this rock is perfect. Don't make me out to be perfect because you're going to be disappointed. I'm on this ascension journey like everyone else.
Listen, if I can come up with a list of things this long just from an interchange of just a few paragraphs, I'm really a master at seeing narcissism and codependency in action. I'm here to tell you what to look out for as well. These are unpleasant, ungrounded people and for those of us who have spent a lifetime learning how to detect them, we're not interested in spending our time with them any longer, especially when they're vampiring our energy.
I checked. She's back on my channel again. I'll just delete all her comments. I can see Rumble is going to be a problem.
In the end, try to do this and take it or leave it, it's just advice but it's what I'm going to do: THANK – yes, be grateful – for your past abuse and the triggering of this issue within you – to stop yourself from entering into another blow-out control/manipulation relationship with a narcissist. Yes, THANK it. Your triggers are your signs that you're entering into a way too familiar territory where you've had bad experiences before and they indicate where you currently have boundaries. Thank yourself for giving yourself the warning you never heeded before and understand with this in place, your future is looking brighter than ever. Just walk away and cut cords with the narcissist.
Your triggers are where your boundaries are right now and you developed them in response to abuse your soul suffered living here on earth. You have two choices: keep them where they are or go further into learning to love others unconditionally which would eliminate all triggers. Interaction with others is a question of inciting a response in the other person. If it can't be done, the vampires will seek elsewhere. If you are unable to be rialled up or are unfuckwithable I think I've seen that term around, if you're calm and cool no matter what you're dealing with then life becomes freedom. Most of us aren't at that point. I choose to come from a position of strength and conviction but I still have triggers that warn me of what I'm dealing with as well.
There are people who comment on Rumble whose comments I look forward to seeing. They're doing the work, they're positive people, they don't shame and blame me. They take what they like of what we say and leave the rest. They don't expect me to be perfect. Good thing, because I'm not. I'm remembering my divinity, just like you are.
If any of these things on this list plague you, you can always go to Codependents Anonymous. This is where I learned to reduce my ego to something more manageable and to embody my higher self. Because of CoDA, Ivo finally was able to come through. CoDA started me looking at myself and why I was in so much pain and I recommend this program to many people who show the symptoms of narcissism or low self esteem as I did twenty years ago.
I'm also going to say that without proper support this world is hell for the empath, who by virtue of their empathy are aligned with unity consciousness but so often experience people who aren't. In getting support, YOU are your number one advocate!
Remember: If they can't get to you, they'll send someone they can get to and prompt them to speak to you. It's all about keeping our energy low and people who respond to these prompts are energy vampires with deep wounds of their own. For this reason they deserve compassion, I think everyone on earth does.
Stop and smell the roses when the triggering energy releases its hold on you. It's sunny outside and Merlin is sleeping on the bed, curled up in a ball. Ivo is always with me and all is well again. I've learned the lesson – I go through it to tell you how to follow on this arduous journey.
In the end, as well, there are things you can do as you cut cords and pull out energetic hooks. It becomes easier to forgive, to have compassion for the person who attacked you, and to be grateful for your triggers and the automatic boundary they set with others. In the end when you are more inclined to be loving because these are aspects of love, life gets easier and wounds don't own you the way they used to. Everyone on earth deserves compassion. You do and people who attack you do because nobody attacks anyone else unless they're in pain. We all have pain.
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Spotting a Narcissist Energy Vampire: Projection
People who project their stuff onto other people make others feel crazy. Blaming and shaming in particular is what I'm referring to.
Recently I went through this. Feeling utterly triggered because someone who used to follow me started an argument by dissing my opinion. But as she was doing this, calling me hateful, she didn't see how attacking me for having an opinion that opposed hers is hateful as well. What about “live and let live?” For blamers and shamers on the triangle, this rule doesn't exist. It always goes their way, they don't see the inequity of what they're doing because they see themselves as faultless. It's everyone else around them that's wrong, not them. I defend myself against these people all the time although sometimes one or two gets through my defenses. I thank my mother for teaching me this because she thought she was perfect. My mother was also a narcissist.
Saying controversial things will always bring out control freaks. If what I say is too much for you, don't follow me. It's that simple.
As an empath and Indigo, I'm now responsible for transmuting not only my own emotions but also her stuff around this. Don't blame me if I don't feel like jumping right to it, folks, I'm only human and I'm subject to withdrawing my goodwill as well. Yes, I know. I'm a channeler. Some of you think I'm supposed to be perfect. That's why Jesus taught the lesson of forgiveness. It gets you on the right path again when you're willing to walk it. Sometimes we fall off. We can't do what's asked of us. Sound familiar? Yes, it's called 'being human.'
Being unconditionally loving does not mean you have no boundaries. It's the secure boundaries you've created that allow the embodiment of your higher self in 3D/4D. If a stranger had a knife in their pocket you wouldn't run up and wrap your arms around them for a hug, would you? On ET planets they are unconditionally loving because everyone else is as well. That's not the case here. Those who can practice the unconditional love of Christ Consciousness are doing it now to anchor that energy into the collective unconscious because humanity on earth hasn't had this to try to attain for a long time. Jesus came here to remind them. They will attract to them a lot of opposition in the form of narcissism.
My comment on this issue: “From the person who wrote comments on how it's a shame I say those words about Potus T: "I can't believe you treat another with such hate." It's always a one-way street, folks. Their way. I can always tell when people aren't in the habit of assessing their own behaviour - because they project all their faults onto me!! They blame and shame. She started this whole thing by admonishing me for the way I see Trump, then expects to just waltz into my life and form some kind of "support" or emotional partnership. Then she contacts Ivo, who didn't respond to her. You guys need to start looking at your own shadow. It's that simple. Keep doing the work, although the narcissist will never start, I'm afraid. Trying to start a supportive friendship with someone is not started with shaming and admonishing them for their opinions, folks. And it's not just your idea that you're trying to foist onto me: It has to be mutually conceived and agreed to, another thing she didn't think about. She's offering support I didn't ask for. Obviously there are some of you that know this. I've had a whole life of this, a hard very emotional life of trying to re-awaken myself and it was rife with personal conflicts, so I'm not doing it now. I will have to stop reading the comments in Rumble soon because as more people find the channel the worse it's going to get for me. Yes, me. I'm the one who has had to shoulder all your blaming and shaming!! If I sound like I'm hateful, that's why.”
It's impossible not to judge another person, folks. Impossible. Why? Because you have to be aware of others' behaviour. You have to see it coming otherwise you'll be fated to falling into personality traps many people will set out for you, whether deliberate or not. You have to judge. Or at least be discerning. Awareness is key and judgment is part of that awareness.
People who attack other people for their opinions are violating the Constitution. They are saying that others are not entitled to free speech. Perhaps if we want the government to honour the Constitution we should start with doing it ourselves! So many starseeds are starting from what they learned living in the Matrix and we're all trying to improve this earth with the arsenal of misinformation we have learned from the deep state without rethinking it. We have much purification to do.
My next comment: “The nerve of some people! First she starts by admonishing me for my opinion of Trump and I expected somebody would. Then she starts waffling on her opinion of Trump because I said what I did. She says, "The jury is still out for me on Trump, I’m in the middle, it matters not to me whether he be found a good guy or a bad guy." Funny, her first comment didn't sound like that at all. Then she starts telling me what to do: "I am so pleased to have spoken with you as i have called in Ivo to connect me to you as our plans are very similar on the community I am starting also. I am not sure now how you feel but one thing i do know... we are not to judge anyone as they each have their own path in this plan and we should not assume anything. I have listened to you for several years and hope that you will call in the Alliance to show you what is truly happening thru Potus T." The information I get on Trump is channeled through Ivo and Ashtar. It's in our books, particularly 'Your Future on Eden.' "I am pleased to have finally been able to make contact and that Ivo and St. Germain will explain my inquiry into talking with you in much greater detail." I DON'T EVEN KNOW THIS PERSON!!!! Why would I have any curiosity about why they have contacted me??? And now they're telling me to think that they're some kind of advisor or something. These people make others feel crazy because their boundaries are so sloppy and they don't utilize normal procedures for personal disclosure. This is the stuff we teach, folks so I can see it coming very quickly. She needs to start looking at herself because she puts people on the defensive. Anyone who makes instant friends with others has poor boundaries. I've had to learn that lesson the hard way - and it has stuck!” Often my instant friendships had something to do with co-victimization or copious amounts of alcohol but right now social media seems to be the new elixir.
Do you think that Ivo came out right away and said, “I'm an ET from Vega and we're in love.” I would've ignored him if he had. He went through the proper channels of disclosure. He let me take all the time I needed to fall in love with him, and then to remember that I already was anyway and he was who I had been searching for on this planet! Even telepathically there are no shortcuts. You don't tell people who they are – let them find out for themselves, and you don't tell people what to do – they will do as they please because they have free will. Her attempts to violate these God given laws did not go unnoticed.
If you want to get someone to change, you can only suggest it and then you have to be in the position of a confidante when you do it. Most people will dismiss comments from people they don't know and trust as being irrelevant – it's their trusted confidantes in life they will go to for advice. Apparently social media doesn't teach that either, does it?
I have found that trying to carry on a friendship with someone with sloppy boundaries is very difficult. Unless there is some respect and a willingness to be flexible and no inclination to manipulate and control, I've found these things very hard to do. Because of my own personal past, and these are things you can recognize about yourself as well, I also do not appreciate arrogant people. If they're so powerful, let them strike out on their own and stop trying to make underlings of people like me. You can see the power plays just by the few things she said. Not gonna happen. I'm not out to abuse anyone but I will assert myself.
Ivo is not going to set up a friendship between you and I. He also doesn't speak to anyone on earth but me. Obviously we put that in place because of situations like this.
Because we're on social media does not change the rules of interpersonal disclosure for me one iota. Social media has blurred the boundaries of proper personal disclosure. When you meet someone who you are interested in for anything such as friendship or a love relationship, you start by spending time face to face and then disclosing more and more personal information about yourself. This takes time. On social media there are boundary-less people who don't use this process. These people make me defensive because one minute I don't know them and the next they're in my face wanting daily contact. One of the people who I allowed to do this with me ended up using me as a sounding board for her abuse issues and then when I ended the friendship she bled me dry of energy for two days until Ivo intervened to shield me from her vampirism. Really. I've had enough of my own abuse issues to deal with folks, do you really think I want to hear yours as well? I talk about mine in order for you to see what I've learned but it's up to you to teach yourself using what we, and others, provide to you for your own healing.
Just because I have an ET that you can contact doesn't mean he's going to respond to you, and he didn't. If you want something from me, you ask me, not Ivo. One time when I was 16 a man at the bowling alley my family used to bowl at was attracted to me. He decided to act on this by approaching my father and speaking to him. That incensed me! I spouted off about it in the car as we drove home, which had my family in stitches. My final comment to my father was if he liked this guy so much, then he should go out with him because I wasn't going to. This is how you approach me: one to one. Don't go “over my head” to Ivo, or contact any other entity to contact me. Anyone who is assertive and self governing would expect that.
What I have noticed for a lot of people is that as society has degraded, boundaries have been weakened. Codependency and other manifestations of poor boundaried mindsets are rampant right now. Social media has not helped – it's only promoted it and the divisiveness that goes along with it. Those of us with healthy boundaries have a hard time dealing with the public because our free will is always being violated. Plus there's the issue of projection where we get scapegoated for all you don't like about yourself, which is the case here. This woman's waffling between changing her opinion to neutral when I wouldn't budge on mine and then using lofty, high handed speech (“It matters not” instead of “it doesn't matter” and “I too have been down in the tunnels” instead of “I've also been down in the tunnels”) indicates she's in her ego, alternating between the superior and inferior ego positions. Anyone who changes their opinion when you challenge them is lying. They will only hold that opinion when they feel validated by others or they feel that that opinion may garner a reward like your approval. Often attempts of dominance will turn to messages of appeasement afterwards. Codependents need people they value to validate them. Narcissists are codependents. I remember a woman I used to work with, who, whenever someone told a joke would wait to see if others were laughing first before she did. She obviously didn't understand the joke but wanted to look like she did. Nothing like admitting, “I don't get it,” and asking for an explanation but some people can't make themselves vulnerable.
I'm not here to dominate anyone through my approval or disapproval of them. Next week this incident will be forgotten. I've only been seeking my equal my entire life and always falling short. Until Ivo spoke to me. I'm in the unfortunate position of having compared everyone I met to Ivo. Life here has been very disappointing. It was necessary so that I could wake up, because it was the reality of him I was to wake up to.
She states that we're not to judge anyone then tells me how mean she thinks I am. Uh huh. That's do as I say, not as I do, isn't it? This person is completely and totally blind. And I don't like having to relate to or to defend myself against their attacks. But I will make a video about them. Always something more to pass on to you to help you too.
If you want to get my back up, start telling me what to do, that's after you diss my opinion. Both are a violation of my free will. I'm not here to make a fight of trying to get our messages out. You can just see them and take what you like and leave the rest. If it brings up a reaction in you, look at that reaction. What don't you like about it? But don't attack me for having said it because if nothing else, it's unconstitutional to do so. Why were you following me in the first place? Because you liked our messages. I get contradictory messages from people who like our messages but start arguing with me.
I'm not saying you have to believe everything; I'm saying take what you like and leave the rest. We don't have to agree one hundred percent of the time, and we won't. Stay out of the black and white and start looking in the shades of grey.
Ultimately this only makes me stronger in the end, but I share this with you so you can learn to see poor inter-communication and grand mal ego in action.
If she has all this contact, where's her website? I hope she's on Facebook and other social media sharing channelings. Also why won't she tell me her name? That's always a red flag for me. Use your real name. What are you hiding? How do I know I'm hiding something by calling myself Sharon, because I am. It's my relationship to my family that I'm protecting besides I'm just tired of my real name. I associate it with what I went through and the false persona I adopted to live on earth. So I changed it. It adds up to 144 but I still changed it.
Look at these things when you meet new people, including on social media:
- do they use high handed, lofty speech (as opposed to people who may be well educated and use language of a higher grade then the general public, like a lawyer)
- do they tell you what to do?
- do they triangulate – do they go to your friends or relatives to talk about their intentions for you before they approach you?
- do they tell you not to judge others but spend their time judging you?
- do they attack you for your opinion (which is unconstitutional)?
- do they make you wrong? Are they about finding fault or are they about finding commonalities?
- in making you wrong, do they tell you you are totally wrong about them and you just don't understand them. Do you get the feeling they're switching positions – that they won't allow you to actually understand them because they won't commit to one position or opinion?
- do you feel they're trying to build themselves up at your expense?
- do they bring in people you respect to strengthen their agenda with you?
- do they change their opinion because you won't back down from yours?
- do they shame you?
- do they try to make you feel guilty?
- do they tell you how awful they think you are (hateful was the term she used) but expect you to be holier than God? Butter wouldn't melt in your mouth, kind of thing? Why do they expect that of you and why are they trying to start a fight with you? (Look at loosh and how it's produced in interactions with other people)
- Why do they expect you to be so virtuous? Why do they hold you on a pedestal you couldn't possibly live up to? So they can tell you how you've failed them, that's why. They're setting you up to be their perpetrator and re-victimizing themselves because they do this with a lot of people. It's a life pattern of being a victim. Sometimes these people have a same sex parent who they are re-enacting this drama with through you.
- do they tell you what to do implying that their opinion has the backing of a Saint or other divine being?
- do they tell you what they think of you the first time they comment? Do they believe that makes a difference to you?
- is their message inconsistent? Do they change it? Do they just outright lie? People who change their message when you won't back down are seeking to dominate you. Don't let them. Learn to love yourself in spite of your faults. That way you can't be shamed or made to feel guilty. They'll just try to find another way to dominate you because that's their game. Like the DS, they fear you so much they have to control you.
- if you believe you can handle a person like this in your life, eventually you may learn that you're too sensitive to be able to do it and you avoid them. Or you can just put up with it. Your choice.
- do you get the sense that this person isn't being very realistic?
- do you feel triggered and then ask yourself: “If I'm triggered is this a valid trigger or just some toxic stuff from my past that I need to release?” Sometimes your triggers ARE a valid way of protecting yourself and you need to honour them.
- do they appear to be violating your boundaries in any way? What are your boundaries around newcomers in your life and are they realistic? Do they reflect your needs and not the needs of the general population? (because, remember that the general population is still in the matrix)
- is this person attempting to stay in the superior position in your exchange, by perhaps offering you help you didn't ask for – the assumption here is that you are in need of help. Do they get uncomfortable with taking a more equal position in the exchange? When you stand your ground do they start to waffle? Do the attacks get worse?
- Can you anticipate how they'll react to what you're saying? If you can, you've been down that road before. Time to turn off.
- Do they continue to attack and to blame you instead of just stopping the exchange or perhaps admitting they stepped out of line? Then they're not really interested in knowing you. They're more interested in gaining their narcissistic supply at your expense.
- Do they tell you you got it all wrong and you don't understand them? This is because you got it right when you called them on their stuff.
- Remember: Narcissists love empaths.
- Don't assume everyone has good intentions. That's the wrong assumption to make.
- the narcissist is an energy vampire
- they try to keep the fight going to get their energetic supply.
- many people serve their unseen attachments without realizing this. This is why you have to take back control of your mind and have it serve you, not demonics. I've heard one person can have hundreds of them! Hundreds! That's staggering.
- the true mark of a person is how they react when they're angry or stressed. That's a good indicator of how much progress you've made in your life.
- Do you start to doubt yourself and start to call yourself crazy around them? This is what effect narcissists have on people who have been very abused by them. What you need to do is stay grounded and validate your self as being correct, because you are.
- Be careful of people who offer without your asking to do certain things like support you. Did you ask for support or is this their idea? Why do they think you need emotional/spiritual support? These are often covert offers of control.
- Remember many people have been MK Ultra'd and don't realize it. Also COBRA reports that the dark ones have all but collapsed the starseed grid so many lightworkers are turning to the dark side. Only with constant scrutiny of your beliefs and intentions can you retain control of your own mind because they are on the attack. They will attack you themselves or use other people to drain your energy. The goal is to keep your vibration low. You have to be aware of all of their tactics - just read our website I have listed many of them - and keep your energetic, spiritual, mental and emotional maintenance up.
- How do you know when you're triggered? When you can't think of anything else but this situation. You're in its energy. Cut cords and I've asked Ivo for a bubble of white light protection so she can't send any more energy over to me. I don't want it, and by the way folks, if you're going to send white light energy make sure the person appreciates it.
- After such an incident, sit down and write how you could have approached or dealt with the situation differently. I should have ignored her comment I realize now. That would have been the best approach.
- do they tell you they speak to entities but when you ask the entity for confirmation, they deny it. Well, who are they talking to then?
- When you challenge them about what entity they spoke to, they tell the truth. She led me to believe that she had spoken to Ivo, but I knew he would ignore her. So she recanted.
- do they tell you you're nasty if they don't get their way with you or are they willing to compromise and meet you halfway? Telling you you're nasty is the victim coming out in them. Sometimes people position others to attack them. My father used to do it so he could play the coveted victim position for a change. He was always the bad guy in the family and for once wanted to look like he'd been hard done by. Frankly this whole victim triangle isn't worth a bit and it needs to be left behind. I live next door to people who do this to each other: the kids piss off the parents for attention and being able to be in control, and the father does it to the mother who at times threatens to kick him out. If this is what you need to do to get people to pay attention to you, you're in a sorry state. You're vampiring others' energy. Strive for more in life. By the way enacting this scenario keeps your energy low because you're not well connected to the higher energy source of your soul. You're being prompted by attachments who siphon off your energy and prompt you to keep fighting for more.
- And last point: If you don't know yourself and your reactions and how you feel on certain subjects, you're going to get sucked into the vampire's game. Don't do it. Learn to accept yourself with faults because nobody on this rock is perfect. Don't make me out to be perfect because you're going to be disappointed. I'm on this ascension journey like everyone else.
Listen, if I can come up with a list of things this long just from an interchange of just a few paragraphs, I'm really a master at seeing narcissism and codependency in action. I'm here to tell you what to look out for as well. These are unpleasant, ungrounded people and for those of us who have spent a lifetime learning how to detect them, we're not interested in spending our time with them any longer, especially when they're vampiring our energy.
I checked. She's back on my channel again. I'll just delete all her comments. I can see Rumble is going to be a problem.
In the end, try to do this and take it or leave it, it's just advice but it's what I'm going to do: THANK – yes, be grateful – for your past abuse and the triggering of this issue within you – to stop yourself from entering into another blow-out control/manipulation relationship with a narcissist. Yes, THANK it. Your triggers are your signs that you're entering into a way too familiar territory where you've had bad experiences before and they indicate where you currently have boundaries. Thank yourself for giving yourself the warning you never heeded before and understand with this in place, your future is looking brighter than ever. Just walk away and cut cords with the narcissist.
Your triggers are where your boundaries are right now and you developed them in response to abuse your soul suffered living here on earth. You have two choices: keep them where they are or go further into learning to love others unconditionally which would eliminate all triggers. Interaction with others is a question of inciting a response in the other person. If it can't be done, the vampires will seek elsewhere. If you are unable to be rialled up or are unfuckwithable I think I've seen that term around, if you're calm and cool no matter what you're dealing with then life becomes freedom. Most of us aren't at that point. I choose to come from a position of strength and conviction but I still have triggers that warn me of what I'm dealing with as well.
There are people who comment on Rumble whose comments I look forward to seeing. They're doing the work, they're positive people, they don't shame and blame me. They take what they like of what we say and leave the rest. They don't expect me to be perfect. Good thing, because I'm not. I'm remembering my divinity, just like you are.
If any of these things on this list plague you, you can always go to Codependents Anonymous. This is where I learned to reduce my ego to something more manageable and to embody my higher self. Because of CoDA, Ivo finally was able to come through. CoDA started me looking at myself and why I was in so much pain and I recommend this program to many people who show the symptoms of narcissism or low self esteem as I did twenty years ago.
I'm also going to say that without proper support this world is hell for the empath, who by virtue of their empathy are aligned with unity consciousness but so often experience people who aren't. In getting support, YOU are your number one advocate!
Remember: If they can't get to you, they'll send someone they can get to and prompt them to speak to you. It's all about keeping our energy low and people who respond to these prompts are energy vampires with deep wounds of their own. For this reason they deserve compassion, I think everyone on earth does.
Stop and smell the roses when the triggering energy releases its hold on you. It's sunny outside and Merlin is sleeping on the bed, curled up in a ball. Ivo is always with me and all is well again. I've learned the lesson – I go through it to tell you how to follow on this arduous journey.
In the end, as well, there are things you can do as you cut cords and pull out energetic hooks. It becomes easier to forgive, to have compassion for the person who attacked you, and to be grateful for your triggers and the automatic boundary they set with others. In the end when you are more inclined to be loving because these are aspects of love, life gets easier and wounds don't own you the way they used to. Everyone on earth deserves compassion. You do and people who attack you do because nobody attacks anyone else unless they're in pain. We all have pain.
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